2025 Sex Talk with Your Kids

Six Sessions of 3 hours each

[1] Foundational Module~3 hours

1.  Preparation to Talk   为有效地沟通做准备

• Introduction  简介
• Why we don’t talk about sex 为什么我们不谈性？
• Who’s talking to our kids? 谁在对我们的孩子说话？
• Problem faced by parents 父母所面对的问题
• Guidelines for Answering Sexuality Questions 回答有关性的问题的指导原则
• 3 Key Components of Sexual Communication 关于性问题沟通所需的三个关键元素
• Case Study 1—Boy’s Boast 案例研究1－男孩的夸耀
• What to Communicate 沟通什么
• Goal of Sex Education 性教育的目标
• Our Strategy 我们的策略
• Home Sex Ed 家庭性教育
• Case Study 2—Condoms 案例研究2－避孕套

2. Marriage & Sex 婚姻与性

• Sacredness of Marriage 婚姻的神圣
• Four Loves 四种爱
• Sex & Reproduction  性与生殖
• Case Study 3—Sex Yak! 案例研究 3－性，咦？！

[2] Topical Session 2~3 hours

3. Bad Sex Education 不良性教育

• Alfred Kinsey—father of sexual revolution   阿尔弗雷德．金赛－性革命之父
• 21 Things SIECUS Wants Your 5-Year-Old To Know美国性信息和教育委员会想要让您5岁小孩知道的21件事
• Inappropriate Sex Education

4. Nakedness & Shame 赤裸裸和羞耻

• Why be ashamed of the human body? 为什么会对人的身体有羞耻感？
• How Imagination Works 想象力是如何工作的？
• Parental Purity 父母的纯洁
• Case Study 4—Short Shorts案例研究4－ 短裤
• Nakedness 裸露
• Sense of Privacy

5. Direct & Indirect Method

• Child’s Developmental Tasks 孩子发展的任务
• First Stage Sex Ed第一阶段性教育
• Morally Neutral Fact File
• Three Stages of Communication
  • Information Stage 信息的阶段
  • Curious Stage 好奇的阶段
  • Comparative Stage 比较的阶段

[3] Topical Session 3~3 hours

6. First Stage Sex Education  第一阶段性教育

• Primary Parenting Tasks 主要的育儿任务
• Children Sex Play儿童性游戏
• When to Communicate 何时沟通
• How to Communicate 如何沟通
• Relational Dimension 关系的维度
• Personal Dimension 个人的维度
• Spiritual Dimension 灵命的维度
• Case Study 5—Why Boys Stand   案例研究5－为什么男生站着小便

7. Self Touch  自我触摸

• Characteristics of Lower Primary 7-9 Years old
• Child’s Developmental Tasks孩子发展的任务
• Primary Parenting Tasks主要的育儿任务
• Physical Dimension 生理的角度
• Case Study 6—Self Touching案例研究6－自我抚摸
• Emotional Dimension 情感层面
• Personal Dimension个人的维度
• Teaching About Privacy 教导隐私
• Sexual Boundaries
• Spiritual Dimension灵命的维度

[4] Topical Session 4~3 hours

8. Healthy Sexuality & Wet Dreams

• Puberty–Child’s Developmental Tasks 孩子发展的任务
• Puberty–Primary Parenting Tasks 主要的育儿任
• 3 Dimensions of Healthy Sexuality 健康的性的三个维度
  • Physical Dimension [Eros]
  • Relational Dimension [Philia]
  • Spiritual Dimension [Agape]
• How to Model Philia Love
• Awareness
• Case Study 7—Bra Tease 案例研究7—关于胸罩的嘲笑
• Preparing to Procreate
• Wet Dreams 梦遗
• Not Comfortable About Own Sexuality

9. Friendship and Peer Pressure 友谊和同伴压力

• Phileo—Friendship or Brotherly Love
• What do You Look for in a Friend?
  
• 4 Predictors of Sexual Experimentation 对于青少年性试验的4个预测因素
• Attraction to Opposite Sex
• Case Study 8—Catch in the Act案例研究8—正在做事时被发现
• Suggested House Rules
• Personal Identity–Peer Pressure
• What To Say–10 Truth Statements
• Finding Like Minded Peers 寻找同样想法的同伴
• Spiritual Dimension 灵命的维度

[5] Topical Session 5~3 hours

10. Pornography 色情

• Teen’s Developmental Tasks 发展的任务
• Primary Parenting Tasks 主要的育儿任务
• Emotional Dimension 情感层面
• What is Pornography 什么是色情
• Learn the Basics
• 5 Ways Pornography Hurt Kids
• What is the danger of girls dressing sexy?
• Teach Your Kids “I have two brains!”
• Sources of Pornography
• How to tackle Pronography
• Impact of Pornography on Teens’ social development
• Why do Teens view porn?
• Myths taught by porn
• Truths to counter the myths
• Which Simple Words to Keep Kids Safer?
• Case Study 9–Poking Stick
• 3 Straight Forward Ways to Define Pornography for Kids
• Case Study 10–Cuties
• Recent Sex Related News in Singapore

11. Gen Z 

• Gen Z Defined
• Physical Attractiveness
• Common Behavioural Issues
• 4 Areas of Consciousness–Physical IQ, Relational IQ, Self IQ, Knowledge & Facts IQ
• Basic Issues Parents Need to Be Prepared to Answer
  • The Act of Marriage
  • Frequency
  • Orgasm
  • Sexual Dysfunction
  • Birth Control
  • Sexually Transmitted Infection
  • Abortion 堕胎
• Emotional Dimension–Self IQ
  • Depression 抑郁
• Relational Dimension–Relational IQ
• Sexual Purity
• Dating vs Courtship 约会与试验
• Rules for Dating 约会原则
• Community

[6] Topical Session 6~3 hours

12. Gen Z Digital Natives

• Digital Parenting
• DQ Institute
• Digital Quotient
• Framework for Digital Literacy, Skills and Readiness
• 3 Levels of DQ Maturity
• 24 DQ Competencies
• 3 Components of Competency
• ICT by Age Group
  • Infant & Toddler
  • Preschool
  • Primary School
• ICT Usage–Key Points
• Is My Child Ready for a Smartphone?
• 5 Ways Technologies Impact Teens Sexuality and Increase Bullying
  1. Sexualized Content is Rampant Online
  2. Apps & the Internet Makes it Easier for Teens to Hook Up
  3. Apps & the Internet Makes it Easier for Predators Too
  4. Kids Engage in Sexting at Alarming Rates
  5. Kids Participate in Slut-Shaming & Other Types of Sexual Bullying
• IGeneration–Smartphones: The New Teen Mental Health Crisis
• Sexting & Cyberbullying Apps
• Legal Aspects of Sexting
• Why Teens Engage in Sexting
• Facts on Online Dating
• 9 Ways to Respond to Cyberbullying
• What Can Parents Do?

13. Same Sex Attraction (SSA)

• Same Sex Attraction 同性恋
• Reasons why SSA is a sin
• Facts on SSA
• Case Study 11—Daughter’s Friend Kevin
• How to Talk to Your Kids about SSA
• Responding to SSA in our Children
  • Do not beat yourself up
  • What to you want?
  • What to do
  • Common reasons that produce deep struggles
  • Navigating Grief and Loss
• Spiritual Dimension 灵命的维度
  • What Work & What Don’t Work
  • Divorced Parents
• Closing Encouragement